Circle of Genius

Have you ever picked up a good book and after reading the first couple of lines, you have goosebumps?  Or have you been so passionately moved by a speaker that they have you sitting on the edge of your seat as you soak in what it is they have to say?

There are a few authors and speakers who really rock my world.  People who when they speak, I listen.  When they write, I read.  That list is ever-growing but as of right now it includes Brene Brown, Gretchen Rubin, Robin Sharma, Nathaniel Branden and a few others.  I really enjoy hearing what it is they have to share with the world.  They inspire me to be better in everything that I do.

This morning was a perfect example of having my world rocked.  On my computer, I have a file of these amazing monthly coach videos from Robin Sharma.  Each about twenty minutes, they are my daily dose of awesomeness.  On the video this morning, his message was about tapping into my own “Circle of Genius”, in other words looking at the people I choose to spend my time with.

Life is short. My two top priorities in my life are my family and my helping people through chiropractic.  The time I have outside either of those priorities is precious.  And who I choose to associate with during those times is important to me.  I want to spend time with people who inspire me to better at what I do.  I want to talk with people who make me smile, are fun, warm, happy, and think positively. I don’t want to spend time with people who are negative, fear-mongering, energy suckers.  How do you avoid these people?

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I have to make sure my Doorman is doing his job.  My Doorman is my “metaphorical Bouncer”, the guy who decides who and what comes into my life.  If someone (or something) doesn’t meet the criteria of who (or what) I want to associate with, then they don’t make it into my life.  Cool concept, if you stop to think about it.  Think of all the people in your life (hopefully there aren’t many) who bring you down.  These people, by the way, are the ones that when you see their name come up on Call Display, you inwardly sigh.  If you had enacted your Doorman when you were first introduced, they wouldn’t have the space in your life they do now.  It’s such a simple idea and yet it works so brilliantly!

Today, I’ll spend time looking at my Circle of Genius.  Who are the people I really trust?  Who are the people who I really love to spend time with?  Is there a way I can connect with them more often?

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More Power Hour goodness

I was really excited to see that an article I wrote on the awesomeness of the morning power hour was published on the Experience Life website this past Thursday.  You can check it out HERE.

On the same day, there was a great article that came through my Inbox from Robin Sharma.  If you’ve been following my blog for a while, you’ll note that Sharma is one of my favourite authors.  I’ve listened to his podcasts, read his books, followed his blog, and seen many of his interviews.  This is what Robin had to share this morning about HOW to get up for a 5AM power hour.

He shares an awesome video at the bottom.  Enjoy and if you haven’t already, I highly encourage you to jump on his email list.  I have yet to be disappointed with his message and I think it will be a huge boost for you too.

Did you know we collectively spend 100,000,000 minutes a day playing Angry Birds on smartphones?

Did you know that most people spend 2 hours or more each day being distracted from doing important things that will deliver their dreams by watching dancing cats on YouTube?

Did you know that the more you allow yourself to be interrupted, the more you actually develop a brain that can’t focus?

It’s just unbelievable how many of us are spending the best hours of our days chasing trivial pursuits that add zero value to our lives.

It’s the #1 success destroyer these days…all these distractions that have invaded your best hours…

So how can you break free of “The Addiction to Distraction” so your days become WILDLY productive? And so you create a life you adore?

One of the absolute best ways I know of is learning how to wake up early. Get this one habit right and you’ll achieve more in one day than most people get done in one month.

FACT: From 5 am to 8 am are “The Golden Hours” that the most successful achievers in the world use to set up their days for success. The way you begin your day really does determine how you live your day.

These 3 hours are the hours of least distraction in your day. And when your energy is at its peak.

So in response to the thousands of requests, I took the time to shoot a new training video that shares the next piece of my formula for extreme achievement. It will teach you exactly how to get up early.

Follow the steps I share and you’ll be getting up early within a few days (so you can achieve important things).

Watch the “How to Get Up Early” video now

Morning Power Hour what?

So this is a question I field a lot.  What is a morning power hour?  Quickly followed up by the question “Why the hell would you do that?” The allure of the power hour can easily be misunderstood.  It’s early (5 AM).  It’s quiet.  It’s dark.  It’s honestly awesome.

I had heard of the morning power hour from so many different people for so many years.  Back in college, I would listen to Chiropractors talk about the benefits of getting up before everyone else in order to achieve greatness in their lives.  But here was the thing.  It sounded…..early.  And really?  What could I get done at 5AM that I couldn’t get done at any other time during the day?  In my head nothing.  I couldn’t rationalize or justify losing out on sleep.

It took the great Robin Sharma (one of my favourite authors) to finally convince me that a morning power hour would do me good.

So one morning I got up at 5AM.  I dragged myself downstairs, made a cup of tea, and sat myself down on the floor in our livingroom.  I stretched for a few minutes and then literally drew a blank.  I had all of these great ideas as to what a power hour would consist of.  I thought of reading.  I thought of writing out goals.  I thought of writing down affirmations.  I thought of listening to TED talks.  But I wasn’t sure where to begin.  What would make the biggest impact?  I spent the rest of my first power hour in confusion and ended up not getting much accomplished at all.

Onto morning number two.  Got up.  Made tea.  Stretched.  I spent most of my second morning power hour thinking of sleeping.  It’s even possible that I fell asleep on the couch in an attempt to mediate.  Because meditation would be purposeful, right?

Day three required some thought.  I literally spent the entire hour writing down everything I wanted to accomplish and then prioritized it.  For me, it was important to create my version of a Purpose book.  So I spent the first two weeks worth of morning power hours creating it.  I would read it over and over again, as I added pages.  My why, my purpose, my values, my ideal day, a list of places I wanted to visit, a list of people I wanted to meet, my “bucket list”, etc.  It gave me a good start.

Two weeks later though I was ready for something new.  My experience is that I need order.  Organization.  (Just ask my mom…I used to have the most organized day planner when paper day planners were still a “thing”. I colour coded work, school, activities, and more.  It was very pretty.)  So, I made a list that I could refer to each morning until my morning power hour became natural.

A sample week of morning power hours.

A sample week of morning power hours.

This helped significantly.  Literally I would look at my list the night before and be prepared for what I would accomplish the next morning.

Your morning power hour is all about you.  There is no greater investment that you can make than an investment in yourself.  Invest in your own knowledge and skills.  Become a better, smarter, more efficient YOU.  Your morning power hour will be a huge game changer.  You will feel accomplished.  You will feel energized.  You will feel rejuvenated.  It sets the tone for my day.

Why the hell would I do a morning power hour at 5AM?  Why the hell would I not?  There are two reasons that keep me sleeping in bed:

1) I’m under the weather and literally need more sleep to function throughout my day.

2) One of my kids was up multiple times through the night and I got less than 6 hours sleep.

Other than those two reasons, I am up and ready for time for ME.  I promise you that it would be the single most influential action step you can put into your life starting tomorrow.

Whatever I do, I do it well.

“Whatever I do, I do it well.”  One of the excerpts from our bedtime routine with our kids, the idea I got from Robin Sharma in The Greatness Guide.  I had no idea how much of an impact this would make on my kids.  Especially on my three year old.

Blake, bless his heart, is a dawdler.  He gets distracted very easily.  It can take him a long time to do anything.  Especially when it’s something he doesn’t want to do.  Like eat his vegetables.  Clean his hands.  Brush his teeth.  Pick up his toys.  Make his bed.  Get dressed.  The list goes on and on.  He does get things done, it’s just at a pace that I don’t normally work at.

The other afternoon I needed about 45 minutes to get dinner ready and the kids were hanging off of me like spider monkeys on the attack.  Lightbulb moment.  I asked Caleigh to go upstairs to clean her room and Blake go downstairs to tidy up the basement (which because of his snail-like tendencies, I figured would take a while).  I knew that would buy me a good half hour before the tummy grumbles became loud enough that no distraction would keep them from asking for dinner.  Caleigh finished quickly and I asked her to go down to help her brother in the basement, which truly was the bigger of the two jobs.

When she went down to help, Blake became quite upset.  I walked down to find out what was the matter and he, with a quivering bottom lip and tears coming from his eyes, said, “Mama, I don’t want Caleigh’s help.  It’s my job.  And whatever I do, I do it well.”

Wow.

I have learned to not doubt the power of words.  We recite those affirmations right before going to sleep and sometimes he’s so tired his eyes are drooping closed before we can finish.  And yet they sunk in.  In a more profound way than I ever expected.  The pride he had, at three years old, to take on the task as his own responsibility was enormous.  And by asking Caleigh to go down and help him, I was taking that away from him.  It was a huge lesson for me.  And I’m just as proud of him for making that call himself and following through.  My little man, maybe in stature but certainly not in heart.

My Blake.

My Blake.

Bedtime Routine Part Deux

I had a great question from a friend of mine after reading my blog post from yesterday.  She wanted to know if I repeat the same things to myself before I go to bed.  It’s a great point.  What are you filling your mind with, both conscious and subconscious, prior to going to bed?

One of the things I talk about in our Think by Design seminar  is the power of our thoughts.  It should not come as a surprise to you that your thoughts control your actions.  Humour me for a moment.  I want you to think of an orange.  Imagine holding that orange in your hand, the weight of it sitting in your palm.  As you begin to peel back the rind, the smell of citrus hits your nose.  Imagine taking off the rest of the peel and then taking it apart into its slices.  As you bring one to your mouth and bite into it for the first time, its juice squirts onto your tongue, opening up your taste buds to the tangy flavour.

Did your mouth water a little bit?  It’s the power of our thoughts controlling our actions.

Now ask yourself what you are filling your mind with before going to bed.  Do you read murder mysteries or empowering books full of wisdom and intelligent thought?  Do you watch primetime TV that is focused on murder, suicide, rape, violence, and illness?  Or (if you do choose to watch TV) do you choose comedies that make you laugh?  Or even better do you play a game or spend quality time with your children or pets?  Or do you meditate, go for a walk, or stretch?  All of these are great ways to wind down, quiet our mind, and prepare for a night of sleep that is restful.

Hey, you might even want to recite to yourself the five affirmations that I wrote about in my last post.  There is nothing wrong being well into your 30s, 40s, 50s or beyond and still being excited about what you will do when you grow up.  Right now I am a chiropractor and I love what I do.  I wouldn’t change it for the world.  However, in twenty years from now I may want to do something different.  I can picture myself being more mobile, with the flexibility to live where I want to live and be able to serve people in a different capacity than I do now.  So, when I ask my kids to repeat “When I grow up, I can be anything I want to be.  When I grow up, I can do anything I want to do.”, it’s for me just as much as it is for them.

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Bedtime Routine thanks to Robin Sharma

I read an incredible excerpt from Robin Sharma’s “The Greatness Guide” about the routine he has set for himself and his kids before bed.

First of all, I really like Robin Sharmas stuff.  I mean, not only is he Canadian (eh!) but he speaks and writes so eloquently and creates simple yet profound ideas for people to grab onto in order to help make their lives better.  My morning power hour is a result of his readings.  I don’t know about you, but sometimes I have to hear things multiple times before I really listen to the message.   In this case it was Mr. Sharma’s book.  I’ve been told many many times that getting up early (like 5AM early) to have an hour dedicated to myself is an exceptional life changing strategy.  However it wasn’t until I read it in TGG that I finally put it into practice.  And yes, it is a life changer.

Another nugget I’ve taken from his book was the missing piece to our kids bedtime routine.  Each night, after we have read our bedtime stories and talked about what was good about our days, I ask them to recite these five affirmations with me:

1.  When I grow up, I can be anything I want to be.

2.  When I grow up, I can do anything I want to do.

3.  Whatever I do, I will do it well.

4.  I will never give up.

5.  I will always remember how much my mommy loves me.  

It brings a smile to their faces.  It brings a smile to mine.  I truly believe that imprinting my kids with those empowering thoughts will make a huge difference in their lives.  I want them to know that they can achieve anything they want if they truly put their minds to it.  Right now Caleigh wants to be a part time ballerina and part time chiropractor.  Blake wants to be the guy who drives a firetruck.  When I asked him if he means to say a fireman, he says “no, just the guy who drives the truck.”

Awesome.

And you know what?  I know he’ll be great at it.